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On Dads and Fathers

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Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a Daddy. - Saying

I wrote this on Instagram yesterday for Father’s Day but subsequently realised I should rather have used the word “Dad” not “Father”. Semantics.

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A Father should be present and proud. He should be kind and fun but know how to discipline. He should say I love you often and not be afraid to show his emotions. He should be attentive to his children, and their mother. He should laugh and play with his children and at the same time he should instill in them the value of hard work. He should educate and teach everything from how to tie a shoe lace to how to be the best version of yourself. He needs to be strong enough to support but human enough to admit his flaws and know when to ask for help himself. He needs to love, yes, but there is so much more to it. Happy Father's day to the dads out there. May you all be thanked and celebrated, today and everyday. X

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A Father should be present and proud. He should be kind and fun but know how to discipline. He should say I love you often and not be afraid to show his emotions. He should be attentive to his children, and their mother. He should laugh and play with his children and at the same time he should instill in them the value of hard work. He should educate and teach everything from how to tie a shoe lace to how to be the best version of yourself. He needs to be strong enough to support but human enough to admit his flaws and know when to ask for help himself. He needs to love, yes, but there is so much more to it. Happy Father’s day to the dads out there. May you all be thanked and celebrated, today and everyday. X

I have read two exceptional blog posts for Father’s Day and had to share them here.

Monica Bielanko (The Girl Who) recently divorced from her husband and I have absolutely loved reading her posts on the topic – actually, I love all her posts. I discovered her blog over a year ago and lost myself in the archives for hours. She wrote this letter to her ex-husband on Father’s Day and it is just amazing.

Tamaryn Shepherd (ExMi) wrote this post to her husband reassuring him that he is better than he thinks and I also just loved it. Don’t we all feel insecure at times and isn’t it wonderful when your partner is there to support and encourage you through these times?

I love both posts because they are not the typical our relationship / my husband / my children’s father / our family is perfect / blah blah but are so authentic instead. We’re not all perfect; not all families have a dad, a mom and 2.25 kids. The important thing is how you make things perfect for you and your family… We’re still working on that.